Looking for love

Hello my people! It's Kikita here. I'm in serious need of your help.

Now, the following may be difficult to believe, but I promise it's the truth. Yes, the beautiful Kikita is still VERY single. (shocking. I know.)

"And I'm gonna be 30! . . . SOMEDAY!" (When Harry Met Sally)

Anyway, I'm currently facing a couple of obstacles in my singlehood. The first is inevitable (I really am much more humble in person . . . I think), I am "beating them off with a stick" because I'm just so gorgeous. I know it's cliche, but sometimes I get tired of hearing about my looks. I would love to hear about my personality or my wit or something . . . but then again:

"Don't youknow that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?" (Gentlemen Prefer Blonds)

So my real issue here, is how does one choose? What should I be looking for?

Mami always says,"Don't compromise on the big things."

But . . . WHAT ARE THE BIG THINGS?

Since I love dancing so much, does it become a big thing?

What about the whole, marrying a Latino thing? Is that compromise-able?

Really then only thing I know for sure is that he should be a Christian (core beliefs and all that). Beyond that . . . I'm at a loss.

And I'm feeling all kinds of extra pressure because the cousins that are my age are all married or about to be.

I heard somewhere about a kind of "life-map" that was specifically for girls like me (you know, not desperate yet, but faced with too many choices and starting to feel pressure from the almighty abuela). You write down a very detailed description of what you want in your future husband and then you find a picture (be it a model, actor, random person, whatever) of what you are hoping he looks like. You put both up in a place where you will see them everyday. And, in a kind of fun voodoo, you being to attract people that fit the description.

Sounds fun right? Except, I'm having an impossible time of it.
I have sat down with a girlfriend and we have begun"The List." But everytime I sit down to work on my list, my mind goes blank. It took me a week to come up with the word "romantic!"

(on the flip side, I'm getting really good at knowing what I DON'T want) ;-)

And the picture! I've got what . . . maybe 3 major Cuban role models to choose from? (Andy, Willy, Desi)

Yeah, I agree Andy's gorgeous . . . but is that REALLY what I want? An Andy type?

I was thinking of using a photo of James Roday (Rodriguez) from PSYCH, but will the fact that he's not really Cuban, but just has a Spanish surname jinx it?? (admit it. he's adorable.)