I Parranda and I Do Laundry - Multi-tasking the Cuban Way

I'm still recovering from my The Traumatic Thwarting of My Trip Home by the POTUS.

Thank you all for your concern. I'm definitely home now and back to my real life which includes laundry and laundry and more laundry and I have some videos I have to edit - in between loads of laundry.

I'll tell you all about Blogalicious Weekend and what I did and the cool places I got to stay in and my visit to the Palacio de Los Jugos....next week.

Remember my ¡Parranda! shoes? I totally got to wear them at the Que Rica Vida sponsored ¡Parranda! Party and I wrote all about that over at the Tiki Tiki today. Click here to read that story and watch the video.

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Carrie & Me at the !Parranda! Party

In my mind I am still in Parranda mode, so while I'll be doing my best to scale Mt. Washmore* I'll definitely be moving my Cuban butt self to the delicious sounds of Celia Cruz.

You can take the Cuban girl out of Miami.... ;-)

(*H/T Flylady)

Merchandising is not the same as Truth

Next week marks the anniversary of the death of mass-murderer Che Guevara.

Many of us have had more than our share of run-ins with ignorant hipsters sporting t-shirts and messenger bags with the idealized image of the "revolutionary poster boy." Like most Cubans, I'm not shy about offering the truth of who Che was and why their t-shirt is not cool.

Sometimes, as most Cubans can attest to, it's an exhausting uphill battle. You almost have to start from scratch and explain the historical truth about Cuba and Castro and that murderous rat-bastard Che.

So I was thrilled to receive a call from the Vice-President of  Young America's Foundation, Patrick Coyle, asking if I would be willing to get the word out about "No More Che Day 2010."

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If you click on this link, Young America's Foundation can provide you with free copies of their "Victims of Che Guevara" poster and other download-able fliers to distribute for No More Che Day.

Che victims

I would ask that you forward YAF's link through your own blogs and also on Facebook and Twitter.

A big Thank You to YAF for getting it. Let the re-education begin.

Futility

 

(cross-posted at Babalú blog)

Hot! Hot! Hot! (a mini-rant)

On Monday, the 27th of September, we here in Southern California experienced the gosh-darndest Hottest Stinking Day of the Year.

This is the thermometer (excuse me, Comfortmeter) in our backyard.

Thermometer

For those of you who are impaired when it comes to reading old-school-liquid-filled thermometers, the red liquid (possibly alcohol or mercury; both expand when heated, which is one of the things I learned from having homeschooled my children for so many years, but that's not important right now), is registering just past the 112 mark.

Which put the temperature in our backyard at a scorching 113 degrees. Without a breeze. It was brutal.

If you live in places that routinely get this type of heat like Palm Springs or Las Vegas or Phoenix, you would most likely call me a whiner and tell me to get over it.

The thing is.... I live in Mission Viejo, California. The Bubble!

I have not chosen to live in any of the aforementioned desert communities. So when we get record-breaking heat here in our little suburban bubble, I'm going to complain about it. Loudly.

And do nothing. (Who can work in this heat?)

And sit very still.

And not cook.

Or do laundry.

And try not to die.

And call my mother who is 96 to make sure she's alive.

She knows I do not tolerate heat well. Hearing my voice on the phone, she immediately laughs.

Luza: "Estas derretida?" ("Have you melted?")

Me: "No, Mami. Y tu?" (<--You probably caught on to that from your high school Spanish. "No, Mami. And you?")

Luza: (again with the laughing!) "A mi me gusta el calor, yo soy bacteria." "I like the heat, I am a bacteria."

She spent a few more minutes fully mocking my inability to deal with the heat, and singing her own 'I'm a Bacteria' praises.

I hang up.

Now I am hot.

And I am fussy.

And I'm been taunted.

By my own mother, who even though she's 96 still wants to keep her Queen of the Hill Crown intact.

So to all of you who are calling me a whiner, and to my own mother who is amused by my discomfort,  I just have two words:

Shut up. That is all. Rant over.

 

14,048

Thank you all for your wonderful response to the post about Christina Diaz Gonzalez's book, The Red Umbrella. I received lots of emails and Facebook and Twitter comments.

I was struck by a couple of things, which I had already suspected:

  1. Most Cubans knew about the Pedro Pans, but unless they had read Yvonne Conde's excellent book, Operacion Pedro Pan, they didn't know how many children were affected.
  2. Outside of the Cuban community, and a few others, most people had never even heard that such a thing had occurred. 

14,048. That number is staggering to me. Let that sink in for just a moment. These people are adults now. Many have never recovered from the pain of that initial separation from their parents.

Can you, as a parent, imagine the agony of making such a life altering decision? Can you imagine the fear of the alternative?

Cuba continues, to this day, to be an enigma to many.

But hear this: There are still many desperate parents on the island, without hope for a future for their children. The government continues to take parental privilege from them. The government, in fact, continues to steal lives, every single day.

But in the early 60's, 14,048 lives were saved

Thanks, Christina, for telling such a beautiful story.

Christina & the red umbrella

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As usual when I have a comment giveaway drawing, I plugged the names into the True Random Number Generator at Random.org and came up with two winners.

Congratulations to the winners of The Red Umbrella:

Ivis Suarez said...

* Are you personally related to or do you know any Pedro Pans?

My father in law is a Pedro Pan. Thankfully, he was reunited with his parents. I don't really know the details, though.

* Is this the first time you've heard about the Pedro Pan exodus?

No, but I didnt know it was so many children.

Ivis

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and

Yes, I had heard about Pedro Pan before I met you, but I didn't have a face to it before. It has a different impact when you know someone who was affected. I cried reading these posts...wow...I have no words...

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If you can make it, this weekend, please say hello to Christina and get her fabulous book. Again, she will be at the following:

SCBWI Annual Conference
July 28 – August 2nd
Los Angeles, CA

Saturday, July 31st at 6:30 pm
Vroman’s Bookstore
695 East Colorado Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91101

Sunday, August 1st at 2pm
Borders Bookstore
100 South Brand Boulevard
Glendale, CA 91204
(818) 241-8099

The Red Umbrella - a giveaway.

There is an episode in Cuban history that not many people outside of our community are aware of . 

When Castro and his cronies took power, not only was personal property at risk of being confiscated by the new communist government, but parents were going to lose their rights over their own children.

Desperate and terrified Cuban parents made the unthinkable decision to send their children out of the country rather than risk losing them to Marxist-Leninist indoctrination.

Airplane tickets and passports were clandestinely secured. With the help of the Catholic Welfare Bureau (Catholic Charities) of Miami 14,048 (!) Cuban youths were placed in foster homes and orphanages throughout the U.S during those years. 

The largest recorded exodus of unaccompanied minors in the Western Hemisphere was known as Operation Pedro Pan. From December of 1960 to October of 1962 they left Cuba, a few at a time. The Cuban parents who sent their children out of the country didn't know if they would ever see their children again. Many did not. About half of them were reunited with their parents.

But if you were to talk to most Pedro Pans today, they are nothing but grateful to their parents for making this impossibly heartbreaking sacrifice.

My friend, Christina Diaz Gonzalez has taken on the topic of the Pedro Pans and has crafted an absolutely beautiful story. The book is called The Red Umbrella. It is an historical fiction novel that follows 14 year-old Lucia from her carefree life in a small town in Cuba to an unknown future, without her parents, in the heart of Nebraska.

The story strikes a personal chord with Christina, as both her parents and mother-in-law were part of  Operation Pedro Pan.

Carrie and I had the privilege and pleasure of meeting Christina in May at Cuba Nostalgia in Miami. (And yes, as a matter of fact, she is absolutely adorable, but that's not important right now.)

Chatting with Christina

Christina tiki tiki 

(Of course, Carrie got up close and personal with the video camera and got Christina to give us some Tiki Tiki love.)

I was so personally delighted with the book (and with Christina, herself) that I asked if I could please promote her book here on MBFCF. She graciously agreed.

Christina will be in Southern California this coming weekend.

So, readers, please get yourselves over to one of these signings. Get a copy of this beautiful book. Pick one up for a friend. It's written in an elegantly simple style and would be most appropriate for a young teen also. My Lucy is reading The Red Umbrella as I speak write.

Christina will be at:

SCBWI Annual Conference
July 28 – August 2nd
Los Angeles, CA

Saturday, July 31st at 6:30 pm
Vroman’s Bookstore
695 East Colorado Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91101

Sunday, August 1st at 2pm
Borders Bookstore
100 South Brand Boulevard
Glendale, CA 91204
(818) 241-8099

Please go and meet the lovely Christina and and get yourself a copy of her beautiful book. Tell her Marta sent you.

Christina & me 

I loved this book so much that I have procured two copies of The Red Umbrella to give away.

To be entered in the drawing, please leave a comment here on this post. Answer one or both of the following questions:

  • Are you personally related to or do you know any Pedro Pans?
  • Is this the first time you've heard about the Pedro Pan exodus?

I'll be choosing a winner on Wednesday, July 28, 2010 at 11 am Pacific Time.

By the way, one of the reasons this story impacted me so much...

My brother was a Pedro Pan.

(cross-posted at Tiki Tiki Blog)

Just Keep Swimming.

I wonder sometimes how I survived my childhood. Seriously.

When I was very young, my family spent the summers at Varadero Beach. The entire summer. (I know. So cool, right?) You see, it was way too hot in the city (Havana) to just sit around. So we went to the beach house, Villa Obdulia, along with all the cousins.

In retrospect, I don't remember anyone teaching me to swim.

They dragged me (!) into the water, and occasionally an uncle would let me cling to his back as he walked out to the sand bar. (I could never get there on my own being less than four feet tall, but that's not important right now.)

But I did have a "salva vida." A life saver. In the form of... an inflatable duck. An INFLATABLE DUCK, people! (I wish I was making this up.)

Varadero in 1960 

After we left Cuba, we continued our habit of spending summers at the beach - sort of. We would drive out to Crandon Park on Key Biscayne in Miami. "El Charquito." Or The Puddle. No waves. No worries.

My sisters and I spent all of our time in the water.

It had not occurred to anyone at this point to teach us to swim. (I know. Shut up.)

Eventually, we moved to California. We lived in Santa Monica, to be exact. The water at the beach here in So Cal was cold and crazy. And there were waves. Not just the rolling-in-isn't-that-a-soothing-sound kind of waves. The kind that tumbled you around like a washing machine. 

There was an art to dealing with these monsters. You had to get really far out and close to them before they broke. Which meant going out sometimes past where we could touch. 

And we got very good at praying "Ay Dios mio! Don't let me die!"

So I'll concede that we did get rudimentary How-To-Survive-in-Rough-Surf Lessons. But just good old-fashioned swimming lessons? Not so much.

It wasn't until a neighbor and friend (who used to take the Cuban girls to the beach) noticed that we were more floundering than floating and so convinced my mom that she really needed to sign us up at the local YMCA for swimming lessons. 

I was ten.

I'd like to point out that I had never, ever, been afraid of the water. No matter how much tumbling and near-death experiences we had, we kept going right back in. 

Imagine my delight with the new-found ability to propel myself through the water by the synchronized movement of my arms and legs!

Front stroke! Back stroke! Dog paddling! Look at me go!

They even taught us how to dive. I became a diving fool. Two feet was the same as twelve feet. I was fearless.

What a wonderful thing I'd discovered!

And so, those swim lessons at the Y carried me through the rest of my life. Up until now.

We belong to our local YMCA. And from the time my kids were babies I have made sure they've had lessons and all four are not only water-safe, but wonderful swimmers.

We go to the Y regularly to swim laps and cool off on the days we're not at the beach.

In my mind, I was gracefully swishing across the Olympic pool, staying in the middle of the lane lines and rhythmically crossing the length of the pool. Back and forth in a beautifully choreographed ballet.

The truth: I was sputtering and splashing and kept hitting the lane lines, and gulping for breath and swallowing water.

So, I made a cataclysmic decision: I would take adult swim lessons at the Y. (Don't judge me.)

I found myself in class with seven other people. Many of whom were working through some life-long fears of the water. Which meant that I, with my 5th grade swim lessons, got to have an instructor all to myself. 

She helped me finesse my style. Breath steadier, pull harder, kick better. And now I can swim laps like the rest of the cool kids. I even got myself goggles and a cap.

(Umm....no, I am not posting any photos of myself with the cap & goggle combo. Let's just say I look very much like an alien. That is all. Shut up.)

Swim
I still love the water. And it's only taken me forty-five years to perfect my stroke. ;-)

When did you learn how to swim? (Or did you?) Tell me.

"Just keep swimming." ~ Dory, from Finding Nemo

Desi's in Miami this weekend (and I am not). *sigh*

I was privileged to have had the opportunity to be in Miami in May for Cuba Nostalgia.

While there, I got to see and hang out with most of my favorite intransigent bloggers (=D) and to experience the food and music that define me as a Cuban.

I love living in So Cal, but every now and then, Miami sings her siren song to me. (It usually comes with a killer bongo beat, but that's not important right now.)

Desi Babalu poster

Opening tomorrow, July 8 through July 11 at the Adrienne Arsht Center in Miami, there's a show I'd love to see. The show is called..... (wait for it....) Babalú. (I know. Shut up.)

Starring Lucie Arnaz, with guests Raul Esparza, and Valarie Pettiford, and dancers Jeanette Delgado and Richard Amaro and very special guest (be still my foolish heart) Desi Arnaz, Jr. (Yes, that's right MY Desi. *sigh*)

So, if you're in Miami this weekend, please go see this show. Do it for me.

Don't forget to tell Desi that Marta sent you. *sigh*

(cross-posted at Babalú blog)

Stressed spelled backwards....

I think that as a Cuban woman I have been GROOMED for worrying. 

As far back as I can remember my mom's cautionary voice speaks into my ear. "cuidado con ______ (fill in the blank.)" 

So is it any wonder that I'm constantly on the alert for trouble? And God (in his great and infinite wisdom) has gifted me with FOUR very independent thinking offspring.

Of course, I know from my extensive Professional Cuban Mother Training that as long as they roam the earth out of my sight, I'm required to wring my hands impotently and wonder what they're doing and who they're with, never for a moment taking a break from my diligent vigil.

Or....I could just trust God with them and break out the Dulce de Leche Ice Cream. =D. 

(I stink at this, don't I? I know. Shut up.)
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Cuban Miami - A Winner

First of all, I want to thank all of you who took the time to tell me your answers and some of you who wrote your stories. As I read through each comment, I realized that this was a perfect snapshot of our Cuban community.

With the naming of each city and date, I read pain and sadness and nostalgia. Thank you so much for sharing this part of your life. Your answers made me stop and think.

Every single Cuban here in the U.S. and actually scattered across the world, has a story like this.

They all begin with the same way. "My family left Cuba in......"

It's almost like our history began the day we left our homeland. And that's what we all have in common, isn't it?

I wish I could give everyone a book, (I'm generous like that, but that's not important right now) but I had to choose just one name.

So, I went to Random.org and used the True Random Number Generator. There were 3 people who entered their names twice, so I subtracted those. From 47 comments I entered the number 44. The winner was Comment #2. (See screenshot below)

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Ileana said...

Where: Mami from Sagua la Grande; Papi from Guantanamo

When Arrived USA: July 1, 1964

Still Have Family? Yes, tios y primos

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Congratulations, Ileana! You're going to love this book.

Cuban Miami 

Please shoot me an email with MARTA, I WON STUFF ON YOUR BLOG in the subject line, so I don't accidentally delete it.

Thank you all, again, for entering this contest. To the rest of you, I encourage you to get this book, Historic Photos of Cuban Miami by Jennifer Ortiz.  It's such a great history of the struggles and triumphs of Cubans as we began our lives here in the U.S., specifically in Miami.

Today, more than ever, I feel privileged to be a part of such a rich community.

Cuban Miami - A Story Book

My family left Cuba in early 1961.

My brother was on the first Pedro Pan flight in December of 1960. Happily, my family was only separated for a few very tense months. But we were part of the lucky few who managed to leave the country rather quickly.

Once reunited, my father vowed we'd never be separated again and so when my older sisters were to be married in California, he packed up the family and we never looked back.

We lived in Miami for the first 3 years of our exile, before my parents moved us across the country and so we made our lives in Southern California.

As Cubans in California - "en el exilio del exilio" - we managed to find other Cuban families and connected with the familiar community of people who spoke our language and recognized our customs and our food.

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My sisters and me. Miami, circa 1962.

There were other waves of Cuban refugees. But unarguably, those who landed in Miami during the early 1960's and 70's were the ones who built that city. 

I've just received a copy of the beautiful book, Historic Photos of Cuban Miami by Jennifer Ortiz. With nearly 200 black and white photographs and detailed captions and stories. It has simultaneously captivated my attention, made me joyful and fiercely proud, but also broken my heart.

Cubans are amazing people, individually and collectively.

Cuban Miami

My mom poured over the book for hours, pointing out familiar faces and reciting the names of the former presidents of Cuba who lived in Miami in exile. We sat together and turned pages and it was like I was a child once again. I sat quietly as each photo triggered a memory and she told me story after story.

She pointed to a photo, "My first visit to Miami was aboard the S.S. Florida." She remembered her excitement and how she and my dad packed as if for a world cruise rather than a weekend trip.

SS Florida
She marveled over the photos of the historic Vizcaya Estate and laughed out loud as she saw the photos and remembered moments from the ground-breaking television show, "Que Pasa, USA?"

The folks at Turner Publishing have generously sent me a copy of this gorgeous coffee table book to give away. Yes, to give away. (I know. Shut up.)

To be entered in the drawing, please leave a comment here on this post. I'd love to hear your answers to these 3 questions:

  • Where in Cuba is your family from?
  • What year did they arrive in the U.S?
  • Do you still have family there?

I'll be choosing a winner on Monday, June 21, 2010 at 11 am Pacific Time.

By the way, this is my answer:

"Havana. 1961. Yes."

(cross-posted on Babalú blog.)