Chronological dis-order

My mom (94) has a giant stack of scrapbooks.  When I say giant, I mean, if you were to stack them all one on top of the other, they would measure at least 20 feet!  Giant stack.

In them she keeps greeting cards she's received over the years, matchbooks, letters, newspaper clippings, birth and wedding announcements, artwork done by the kids, voters guides; any bit of ephemera that comes her way.

It's quite an impressive and fascinating assortment of things.

She also has a giant stack of photo albums.  In fact, she prides herself on being so well organized when it comes to her photo albums and scrapbooks. 

See? Her photos are in albums for everyone to enjoy (I am obviously a little bitter when she brings this up, because even though I consider myself a Scrapbooker, hey, I still have lots of photos in boxes, but that's not important right now).

She didn't start doing this until about 10 years ago, but she's very systematic and faithful to add things to her album collection. (I don't point out that in that same amount of time I've been homeschooling children and running a business and yes, scrapbooking some of the time.  But, again, I'm a little bitter.)

There is, however, one small problem with her books: They're not in any kind of order.

Soooo, on one page there might be pictures of my brother as a baby (he's 63 now) and on the next page there are pictures of Amy's high school graduation. Followed by my cousin's daughter's wedding pictures, which are then followed by photos of my dad when he worked in Arizona in 1969 followed by her neighbor's son's prom pictures.

No matter that she doesn't remember some of these people or where she actually got that colorful napkin. The point is that everything is neatly placed in albums.  Ay Dios mio.

It's beautiful, really, in an obsessive-compulsive-chaotically-simplistic way.

Because I'm The Family Historian, (if you capitalize your title, it seems more like an official and important thing instead of a self-proclamation) I occasionally steal her books and go through them and copy things of interest. 

(In my own defense: I know stealing sounds bad, but she won't part with them willingly and after she gets mad about it, she always forgives me later.  This is how I justify stealing in this scenario, but that's not important right now, either.)

So back to the random-stuff-in-her-scrapbooks thing....

This is how I came across this beauty between her cousin's husband's 70th birthday photos and pictures of my brother's first car:
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That's my mom when she was maybe 5 years old.  The original picture itself is tiny, not quite two inches tall.
This is what it says on the back:
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Beauties and Children of Cuba. Complements of Henry Clay and Bock & Co. Ltd. Havana. For their favorites.

I did a little research and found that these were Cuban Collectible Tobacco Cards.  They were inserted into Susini cigarette boxes and usually featured movie stars from the 20's.

Yes. Susini Cigarettes. Movie Stars.  And MY mom.

It turns out that my grandfather, in his job as a customs inspector in the seaport of Manatí, Cuba, met up with a representative from the Henry Clay and Bock Tobacco Company in Cuba and asked him to consider doing a series of cards featuring "Beauties and Children of Cuba,"  and the next thing you know - BA-da-boom! My mom finds her picture on cigarette cards being distributed by the same.

This is precisely why I have to occasionally break into her house and steal this stuff.  Because if I didn't, this picture and story would get buried in a stack of unrelated things. 

And I don't know if it's humility or memory loss, but my mom has NEVER MENTIONED that she is a part of Cuban Tobacco Collectible History.  Isn't that a totally-random-yet-extremely-cool thing? 

Don't you think she might have just mentioned it in passing??  (Big. Heavy. Sigh.)

So, I'll just keep stealing her albums and forcing myself to look through all the boring and ancient 6th grade graduation announcements from distant cousins and fun-facts about the 1984 Olympics and occasionally I'll come across a nugget like this.

And she'll keep systematically putting random things in her books and pretending to be shocked and angry at me because I should know better, before tellling me the story and then forgiving me.  

It's the circle of life.  =D

Bilingual brain fart

I like to own movies that I know I'll watch over and over.  We have quite the extensive video/dvd library.  Seriously, how else could we play the Kevin Bacon Game??   ;-)
And as you already know, I'm really easily entertained.

So, I'm cruising through Target the other day and I found this dvd on sale:

Sleeping beauty

Disney does that thing where they release movies at a prescribed moment in time and (I'm so not kidding here!), if you want it, you'd better buy it right then and there, because before you know it, it goes right back into "The Vault," and then it's impossible to find it again until they decide to release an anniversary edition of some sort, but that's not important right now.  =D

Anyway, I remember some Disney films from when I saw them as a small child in Cuba.  Yes, in Cuba. As New Releases.  Yes, in a Movie Theater.  Cuba was not the third world country it is today.  But then, that's a rant for another day...

I remember Blanca Nieve (Snow White), Pinocho (Pinocchio), La Cenicienta (Cinderella) and of course, La Bella Durmiente (Sleeping Beauty).  The last being my absolute favorite and so in a moment of weakness and nostalgia, I bought the Sleeping Beauty dvd.  (It says 50th Anniversary Platinum Edition on it - remember I told you about The Vault thing?)

I get home with my prize and both my girls (Amy Kikita and Lucy) ask hopefully and almost simultaneously, "Is it for me?"

No, I explain, I got it for myself.  Then waxing nostalgic I go on to try and explain that one Christmas when I was maybe three years old I received a set of ... ummm.... what's the word?... ummm... CUQUITAS.  The word in English completely eludes me at that moment. (or does it "allude me?" English can be so crazy-making sometimes!)

(Hold on, everybody! Here we go.....)

"Kookeeetahs??" 

Still searching my mental rolodex in vain for the English word, which (I swear!) is right on the tip of my tongue, I fumble around in vain.  My brain is stuck on CUQUITAS and will not budge from there.  Frustrating!

"It featured all the characters from Sleeping Beauty: the Princess Aurora, the 3 Fairies, the Prince, Maleficent.  They came in a big, flat book and then you cut them out and you could dress them. You know ... CUQUITAS!" 

I make big gestures with my hands to form a large book and then scissors for the "...and you cut them out..." part.  It's still not coming to me and the big gestures are no help at all in the quest to make myself understood. 

Besides, the word, CUQUITAS is taking up all the room I have in my already-too-full brain for the description of the elusive item.  The hand motions are no help at all.  They're still staring quizzically at me.

Again I try to explain.....

"Ay! You know....They're like little dolls, but made out of paper..."

The last part sort of happens in slow motion. 

Just as the words "...made out of paper..." escape my lips, my slow-poke bilingual brain finally connects the dots, and I get that late-dawning look of "oh, yeah!" on my face, but of course, it's entirely too late.

Yes, yes, yes. Paper Dolls. Cuquitas.
Sleeping Beauty Paper Dolls.  La Bella Durmiente.
I got them for Christmas in 1958.  Nostalgia, anger and relief co-mingling here.  Shut up. I know. Duh!

They have dissolved into laughter and I know that this story will now go into The Darby Family Favorite Story Archives. 

Or, I suppose we could just call it The Vault.  ;-)

From my "Is that really for reals?" files

This morning I found this blocking the way to our side gate...

Spider web044 

Admittedly it's an amazing thing of beauty, if you can detach from the thoughts of the size of the spider that probably made it, (which I cannot because we were all in Lord of the Rings mode from earlier this week and I couldn't help but think of Shelob when I saw the size of this web, but that's not important right now).  Eeewww!

I bet I can guess what that spider was thinking:

"If I pull this off, I'll eat like a KING!"  =D

(For all of you Cubans reading this: Spider is #35 in La Charada China.  Why do I know this stuff?? And what does it really mean to my actual life?)

Happy Wednesday!

Cuban Voodoo in Suburbia or Mami suggests a "cocimiento"

This flu thing is really doing a number on me.

I was even tempted to try an over-the-counter remedy like Thera-Flu or some such thing. 

But I did what any smart Cuban woman would do... I called my mom instead.

My 94-year-old mother is the original Old (Cuban) Wife from whence come the tales. =D

Her solution: "Dos aspirinas y un cocimiento."

That translates loosely to "two aspirin and a voodoo concoction that wouldn't be approved by the FDA."
She went on to describe what to put into the brew.

I'm allergic to aspirin and the cocimiento has an unusual (not appetizing) smell, so I'm just sitting here staring at it.

What to do... what to do?

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Nope. I decided to not drink it. 
I know. I'm a coward. I'm just going to go back to bed.

The truth is that I started to feel better the moment she answered the phone. 
It's just such A Gift to still have my mom in moments like this.

Voodoo and all.  ;-)

Finding my style

(I'm sharing the following because faithful MBFCF reader, George, was curious, and well, I'll pretty much shamelessly write about anything, but that's not important right now. But, please remember, Mr. Curious George, the blog reader, not the monkey, =D.... you asked for it...)

Hi, I'm Marta and I'm a Cuban Online Shopping Addict.  That's right - C.O.S.A.**   ;-)
"Hi, Marta."

Okay, well, addict is kind of a harsh word.  I like shopping online. A lot. (that softens it some, doesn't it? =D)

I just LOVE when packages appear on my doorstep.  Is there anything better?? It's like Christmas!

When Lucy and Jonathan were toddlers I didn't get out to do much shopping.  I am of that old-school of parenting that thinks that parks are much more fun for kids than the mall. (I could rant here, but I will exercise some self-control. Let's just say I have a definite opinion on this.)

Anyway, about 10 years ago, when we still lived in a too-small-for-the-six-of-us condo, I would dream of the home we would one day own and how I would decorate it in my own Caribbean Cottage style. And so I started trolling ebay for Cuban items.

All the things I have in my home are not just decorative, they are meaningful to us in some way.

This is my favorite find:
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It's a souvenir tablecloth from Cuba from the 40's. I got it on eBay (in a dramatic bidding war!) and paid about $150 for it.  My sister, Alina, had been given one by a friend and I had always loved the vibrant primary colors and the kitschy-ness of it, so I was deliriously delighted to find one. "Holiday Isle of the Tropics" - it really was. (sigh)

We had it framed in a bright red wood and used acrylic instead of glass so it isn't heavy or fragile, even though it measures about 5 feet across.  It makes me totally happy every time I see it (which is every time I go up the stairs, which is why I'm happy most days).  =D

Also on ebay were these vintage postcards from Cuba that I got for a couple of dollars.  They are from the 1920's and actually have greetings on the back and are stamped and all that, so they are not pristine.  But, I'm not that picky. I just think they're cool looking and they represent some key places in the Cuba of my childhood ( Varadero Beach, The Hotel Nacional, which I always thought was an AMAZING and romantic place, but that's not important right now, and the Malecón): 

Cuba postcard

I stumbled upon this awesome L.A. based graphic designer who did vintage-looking travel posters with great attention to detail.  His name is Kerne Erickson.  Eric has a few of his Hawaiian posters hanging in his office.  But these two are my favorites.  I like everything about them: the bright colors, the clean design, the old Pan-Am logo, the vintage look. Everything. I got these from Art.com.

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Cuba poster 2

This one sits above the mantel in our living room.  I found it at Z-Gallerie years ago and then searched for it online. It's a poster of a piece from Redstone Studios, who create one-of-a-kind maps for like a bizzilion dollars apiece, but these were available as posters for a while. The artist is Connie Brown and I found this link to her on Global Gallery.

At the top is a quote from the poem Hierro by Cuban Patriot and Saint Jose Martí:

¡Sólo las flores del paterno prado tienen olor!

¡Sólo las seibas patrias del sol amparan!

Our local frame shop has a service that involves permanent mounting on a plaque.  It costs about a third of what it would to have the piece framed and put behind glass and it also gives it a UV coating that protects the artwork from fading. Needless to say, we have most of our stuff plaqued.

Cuba map

So what do my decorating choices tell you about me?

  • I'm extremely proud of my Cuban heritage.
  • I'm on a first-name basis with the owner of our local frame shop. =D
  • I like lots of color.
  • I like to have fun.
  • I'm very sentimental.
  • I don't take myself too seriously.
  • I like receiving packages in the mail.
  • I love my home.
  • I married a really patient man. ;-)

**  "Mira que tiene cosas esta mujer!"  ;-)
                                            ~ Ricky Ricardo

And then.... the Cuban Family moved in.

Years ago, my big, fat, Cuban family moved to a sleepy peanut-butter-and-jelly neighborhood in Anaheim, California.  Our house was at the end of a cul-de-sac where the other families had been living forever.  They had their own neighborhood traditions, including a 4th of July Block Party.  Life was predictable and quiet and everyone liked it that way, thank-you very much.

And then…. The Cuban Family moved in.

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Marta, Alina, & Miriam. 1973.
(Notice we're dressed in some kind of western theme. See? I come by it honestly. =D)

We had moved in at the beginning of summer and were still unpacking boxes when the invitation came.  We were invited to participate in the Annual 4th of July Block Party and Potluck.

“Potluck?” (actually it sounded more like “PAAT – LOK?” but that’s not important right now.) My mom didn’t understand. “Que es eso?”  (“What is that?”)

We tried to carefully explain that everyone in the neighborhood literally brought something to the table.  We would share the food. Everyone was expected to bring something. 

“De todo un poco.” My dad simplified.  (“A little bit of everything.”)

My mom took great pains deciding what she would make to share with our new neighbors.  And if it was something to be shared as part of celebrating this great country’s independence, well, it should be something Grand.  Possibly even Regal.

She took great care in her preparations.  Like our adopted country, The Dish was to be something Magnificent, (not to mention delicious), it had to be Cuban, and it was meant to impress.  She wanted to give our neighbors the very best The Cuban Family had to offer. It took a while to prepare (I have l shortened the recipe since then), but the outcome was well worth it. 

We made a wonderful impression.  As it turned out, The Cuban Family was generous and welcoming and so patriotic!  Who knew?  ;-)

What did she finally make for the potluck?  Well, my mom made Arroz Imperial.  And it was such a hit that she made it every single 4th of July for the next twenty years.  The neighbors came to look forward to her signature dish.  In fact, from then on, she would only make it for the Annual 4th of July Block Party and Potluck.

I offer it to you today in Remembrance and with the thought that this is what makes America great:

“De todo un poco.”

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[cross-posted today at Babalú is this story and my family recipe for Arroz Imperial.]

I wrote about my memories from September 2001 last year on this date. So did Amy Kikita.
My feelings and thoughts from then have not changed.

I will NEVER forget.

The Wish

I was born in May of 1955.  At the end of that summer, which my family was spending in Varadero Beach, Cuba, as usual, a friend of my mom's came to visit to meet the new baby. 

Her name was Conchitica.  [NOTE: "Concha" is the Spanish word for shell, as in a Conch Shell.]  This particular "Concha" was the third in that descendency to receive the ubiquitous family name.  Concha was the grandmother. Conchita, the mother. And this person was saddled with the hyper-diminutive Conchitica, or Concha The Third, but that's not important right now.

Conchitica had just returned from the opening of a brand new amusement park in California, USA.

An amusement park for children where life size animals existed and moved, yet they were not real.
A boat cruise through a real jungle!
A tree-house right out of Swiss Family Robinson.
There were real trains and fairy tales that had come to life.
A gorgeous carrousel.
A rocket to the moon.
A larger-than-life, but not-as-big-as-real-life castle. 

"You must take your children there!" She insisted to my mother, who was still recovering from the birth of her 6th and last child at the age of 41. 
"It's a magical place that must be experienced in one's lifetime."

Castle

"California?!" my mom balked. "I WISH!She imagined taking the baby in her arms to this magical place.

But no. Impossible. California was not only 3,000 miles away, it was in another country.  A foreign country. It was another world. A complete impossibility. She could only wish.

Because, you see, her life was set.  She was Cuban and Havana was her home. She had her husband and her six children and her life was set. She would never get to California, let alone the magical amusement park, but still she was fascinated.

Ah, but she had made The Wish.

And The Wish took on a life of it's own.

Fast-forward eighteen summers (and a lifetime!) later.  My mom and dad and the two youngest of the six children can be found living just blocks from the original Magic Kingdom in Anaheim, California. In fact, during the summers, all we had to do was to go sit outside on the porch at 9:20 each night to enjoy the fireworks from Disneyland.

But... that was impossible! California was so, so far from our island home. Not just geographically, but in our imaginations.

But now, as I write this, I've lived in California for the majority of my life. As my mother held me and listened to the stories Conchitica had to share, she couldn't have imagined it.

And yet, here we are.

As soon as I finish this post, we're going to Disneyland for a few hours for lunch and the parade and maybe to ride the Jungle Cruise.  It's my favorite ride.  (I know. Uber-dork.) Because as a very small child, I heard stories of a wonderful cruise through a life-like jungle that had captured my mother's imagination.

I swear that I get emotional when I ride that ride. Because I always think back to Conchitica and The Impossible Wish. And it makes me realize that we sometimes think that things are set in stone, but God has other plans. We can't imagine the life that awaits us.

At least I couldn't. And neither could my mom. And yet, here we are.
And life is good. Better than we could have wished...

Wish

"A dream is a wish your heart makes..."
                                                     ~ Cinderella   ;-)

Se dice..."Peet-sah"

Pizza

Husband: "This is really good. What kind of pizza is it?”

I make homemade pizza all the time, so that part doesn't surprise him.  It's the distinctly Cuban flavor that gives him pause....

Me: “It’s a Cuban pizza, of course.”

Husband: “Who are you trying to kid?? There’s no such thing as a Cuban pizza.”

“No such thing??” 
(them’s fighting words….)

So, I bring in the heavy artillery.

“Mami, prueba esto.”  I ask my mom (self-proclaimed expert on all things Cuban) to taste my creation.

It reminds her of a pizza she used to eat in Varadero in pre-revolutionary Cuba and she says so.  She closes her eyes and savors another bite. 

The Authority has spoken. This is exactly what a Cuban pizza should taste like…

I throw my arms up over my head and do the victory dance. =D
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My recipe for The Very Best Cuban Pizza EVER will be posted up at Babalú today.

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August, 1960. Varadero Beach in Cuba. My beautiful sister, Miriam.

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According to the stamp on the back of the photo, it was just a few days after her birthday in 1960.
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She was so proud to be photographed on the beach in her gorgeous new Catalina Swimsuit  - "Styled for the Stars of Hollywood."

Catalina was the brand that supplied suits to the bathing beauties of the world and all the hot Hollywood starlets of the 30's, 40's and 50's.  The traditional swimsuit competition of the Miss America and Miss Universe pageants featured iconic Catalina Swimsuits. Catalina was synonymous with beautifully classic style.

And here is my big sister, standing proudly in her Catalina, frozen in time in all her lovely bathing beauty glory.

Beautiful. Classic. Iconic. Just like that Catalina suit.

Happy Birthday, Manana! I love you.

Real jewelry AND expensive perfume? You must be Cuban! ;-)

Imagine a beautiful young lady emerging from a giant clam shell a la Botticelli's The Birth of Venus - tastefully dressed, of course, but maybe she could actually get the full-body hair extensions... (never mind.)

Ormaybe the young lovely could be lowered hydraulically on a flower-covered swing, dropping rose petals from a wicker basket as she came forth to greet her adoring minions...

Or picture a sweet, slightly blushing, 15 year old girl in an impossibly frilly white dress and a tiara, dancing with her very proud dad to Sunrise, Sunset (from Fiddler on the Roof).  I can't even think of the lyric without getting all teary, but that's not important right now.

Okay, so given a limitless budget and my fertile imagination I could have probably come up with some some waaay over-the-top quinceañera theme to celebrate Lucy's 15th birthday.  Or maybe not-so-over-the-top, but I know (and she knows) that I'm totally capable of going right off the deep end given the right circumstances.

In our Cuban culture, a girl's fifteenth birthday is celebrated with a bit more flair than others.  It's the equivalent of a Sweet Sixteen, or a Bat Mitzvah, or possibly a Debutante Ball. 

And no, I swear I did not pitch the giant clam shell or the flowered swing, or even the frilly dress, although I confess that I did want her to wear a white dress and (He-lloo...) a REASON to wear a tiara is not to be passed up!

And, well.... I love our Cuban traditions. 

So, we compromised......

I insisted on the party.  She insisted on keeping it very small. (lucky for her, most of my big, fat, Cuban family members were vacationing or otherwise occupied, so the event was small by default which turned out to be perfect.)

So, we had lots of roses (mandatory! thanks, Tia Carmen & Tio Rudy!) but not necessarily just pink....

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We had treats for everyone, but nothing frilly....

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The food was completely Cuban: Lechón, Black beans & white rice, maduros.  There are some things we absolutely, unquestioningly agree on. =D

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Yes, there would be a cake, but it would not look like a mini-wedding cake.  It would have to be chocolate - her favorite.  There was not too much argument there and I went ahead and got the 5-layer one... just to add some height, of course.  ;-)

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She received some gorgeous REAL jewelry (thanks, Tia Helen!) and fabulously expensive perfume (Thanks, Tia Ofelia!) and of course, some BIG BUCKS to spend at Borders (thanks, Tia Alina!) from her awesome Cuban aunts (my sisters) who totally get the significance of the quince and know how to give the Most Awesome Quinceañera Gifts.

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My mom gave her the traditional gold calendar charm she's given to all of her other granddaughters on their fifteenth birthdays.

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Along with some sage advice....

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We danced, of course.  Well, we're Cuban... and there was music....  ;-)

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And, yes she wore a white dress. (Although, I confess I was ready to let her wear even jeans and a tshirt as long as it was white, but that's not important right now....)

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And so Lucy was able to finally embrace her inner-Cubana and happily join the legion of other Cuban women in the family....

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Now she can confidently say,

"Been there. Done that. Got the tiara." =D

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